With Valentine’s Day around the corner, most people are busy making dinner reservations and shopping for gifts to express their love for their partners.
While grand gestures such as fancy dinners and gifts are nice on special occasions, there is a simpler and more personal way to show love to your partner everyday of your lives – speaking his/her love language.
According to renowned marriage counsellor and author, Dr Gary Chapman, there are five love languages – Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving of Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Each love language is a predominant way that we use to express and receive love.
For example, if your partner’s love language is quality time, your partner may not feel as cherished as you think he/she would be if you’ve been showering him/her with gifts while being too busy with work or your friends and hobbies. To feel loved, your partner would need you to spend time with him/her engaging in activities you both enjoy or which allow you to get to know each other on a deeper level.
So, they key to showing love in the most effective way would be for you to first know your partner’s love language! Taking the time to learn and understand your partner’s primary love language can help strengthen your bond. To discover your partner’s and your own love language, try out this simple assessment.1
Once you’ve identified each other’s love language, think of effective ways to express your love so that they would feel genuinely cherished. Here are some ideas to convey your love according to the different love languages.
Words of Affirmation
Speak words of encouragement and compliment your partner. Share reasons why you love your partner. Refrain from insults.