The malls are packed this season with shoppers browsing shop after shop in search of the perfect gifts for their loved ones. While the latest electronic gadget or the prettiest piece of jewellery may delight most, knowing your spouse’s love language may enable you to gift the best gift of all this Christmas and beyond.
Speaking your spouse’s love language is a simpler and more personal way to show your love and appreciation to your partner, everyday of your lives. To discover your partner’s and your own love language, try out this simple assessment.
Once you’ve identified each other’s love language, think of effective ways to express your love so that they would feel genuinely cherished. Here are some ideas to convey your love according to the different love languages.
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
Speak words of encouragement and compliment your partner. Share reasons why you love your partner. Refrain from insults.
- Call your partner on their lunchbreak to say “I love you”.
- Write expressions of love specially for your partner and frame it up as this year’s Christmas gift.
- Create love notes expressing love and appreciation for your partner. You may even surprise your partner by slipping the notes in their pockets or hiding them at unexpected places to be discovered throughout the day.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Perform actions which would ease the burden of responsibilities on your partner. Refrain from laziness, broken commitments or creating more work for your partner.
- This Christmas weekend, offer to take over the household chores which your partner hates doing.
- Volunteer to take the kids out so that your spouse can enjoy some much-needed “me time”.
- Prepare a festive homecooked breakfast for your partner on Christmas morning.
People with this as their primary love language thrive on the love, thought, and effort behind each gift. Avoid thoughtless gifts or a missed birthday and anniversaries.
- Create a scrapbook documenting your milestones together and include captions detailing your thoughts on each page.
- To present a meaningful gift which your partner would love, pay attention to your partner’s likes and dislikes and take note of his/her desire for certain items.
- After a trip, bring back a souvenir which reminds you of your partner.
Nothing says “I love you” more than giving your partner your undivided attention and indulging in quality conversations. Avoid postponing dates and appearing distracted when you’re together.
- Book a short get-away or staycation this Christmas weekend and create memories by trying out activities which both of you are interested in but have never tried before.
- Leave the kids at home and indulge in a romantic dinner for two.
- Plan a date night each week.
Physical touch such as hugs or hand-holding fosters a sense of security and reaffirms the bond between partners. Avoid neglect or being frequently absent.
- Kiss hello and goodbye
- Create DIY spa coupons which your partner may redeem from you at home. Gift your partner a pampering massage and play some soothing Christmas jazz in the background.
- Cuddle while watching your favourite Christmas movies together
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