If regular routine checks are necessary for our physical bodies and cars, why not marital relationship?
Every marriage will benefit from a periodic check-in because over time, couples tend to lose the ability and desire to talk about or enrich their relationship when parenting, career, family, health and life transitions impact the vibrancy of their marital relationship.
Spend a few minutes and do a quick health check of your marital relationship now. Answer the questions below. For a better sensing, get your spouse to do the same exercise:
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I can tell you what stresses my spouse is currently facing
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I can list my spouse’s major aspiration and hopes in life
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I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating my spouse lately
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I really enjoy discussing things with my spouse.
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My spouse is good at soothing me when I get upset.
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We are pretty good listeners even when we have different positions on things.
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Even though our interests are somewhat different, I enjoy my spouse’s interests.
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I feel loved and cared for in this marital relationship.
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The above questionnaire is taken from Gottman, John and Nan Silver: The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide From the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999).
Scoring: The more “true” answers indicate a healthier marital relationship.
Contact us for a more detailed analysis & marital health check.
We recommend a regular marital check-in with the first check before the 5th year of marriage. At TOUCH, we offer a marital health check using the evidence based PREPARE ENRICH Relationship Assessment inventory to reignite companionship, romance, and commitment in your relationship. In the individualised session, our trained facilitators will help to unpack the findings of the assessment so that you will
- Learn about your relationship strengths;
- Have a better understanding of the underlying dynamics impacting your communication;
- Be guided to develop skills to improve your growth areas.
- Have insights to understand the why behind what is going on to bring repair and restoration in your relationship.
PREPARE ENRICH Health Check-In
1 session of 2 hours for unpacking of the couple’s PE Assessment Inventory. The session is by individual couple format.
Fee: $180 per couple, inclusive of 7% GST (including online assessment tools and report)
For enquiries contact 6709 8400 or email [email protected]
For those of you whose spouse is not ready or able to do the health check together with you, TOUCH offers another evidence-based tool, the SYMBIS Assessment for you.
SYMBIS Assessment
The SYMBIS Assessment gives you a personalized road map to making your marriage everything it was meant to be. It may just be the most important thing you can do for your relationship.
The Assessment is grounded in multiple studies to ensure that it is both reliable and valid.
Take the assessment to discover:
- Your Personalities - discover strengths you both bring to marriage
- Your Love Life - cultivate deeper intimacy and lifelong passion
- Your Fight Types - discover your “hot topics”
- Your Talk Styles - crack the code for heartfelt and lasting connections
- Your Deepest Longing - create your ultimate soul-to-soul connection
- Your Money Methods - kick financial worries to the curb and deepen your connection with one another
SYMBIS Health Check-In
1 session of 2 hours for unpacking of the SYMBIS Report
Fee: $180 for the individual session, inclusive of 7% GST (including online assessment tools and report)
For enquiries contact 6709 8400 or email [email protected]